Monday, September 29, 2014

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Dinner.

Oy vey, the bane of this Mom's existence.

I do love to cook. And bake! And even grocery shopping doesn't bother me, but under pressure? Every night?

Five o'clock rolls around, the kids are climbing into the cabinets for chips and pretzels. I'm feeling peckish and under the gun and wondering the old Laura Bennet question, "Didn't I feed you yesterday?"

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Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Fifty New Summer Experiences

My friend Julia was wondering via Facebook how to celebrate the last summer of her forties and a friend replied, "Make a list of 49 little things you want to do before summer ends."

What a great idea!

I'm also turning fifty this year (whoot, whoot!) and I've got lots of fun plans for the last few days of summer, but the whole summer has been so lovely so far, I thought I'd try to make my list about all the new experiences I had!

1.  Enjoyed one of the best Summer Nights at Brookfield Zoo! Stilt walkers, magicians, jugglers, bubbles, toddlers dancing to a great live cover band on the green and a guy with handlebar moustache riding a Ye Olde Bicycle with a giant front wheel and tiny back wheel. Oh yeah, animals too! Thanks, Brookfield Zoo!


2.    Camped out overnight in the back yard (thanks for the tent loan, Jennifer!)

3.    Make chocolate chip pancakes (with milk chocolate, not semi-sweet!) on a Thursday morning.

4.    Enjoyed the waffles my nine-year-old made ALL BY HERSELF! (From scratch!)

5.    Biked with the family from Navy Pier to 18th Street Beach.

6.    Suessical the Musical at Navy Pier!

7.    Walked the Wrigley outfield in a Girl Scout parade!


8.    Got caught on TV with Nora at the Sox game shimmying to ACDC's "You Shook Me All Night Long" (for reals!)


9.    Played trampoline dodge ball and loved it.

10.  Kane County Cougars!

11.  Kale salad at hot hot Beatrix. (I passed on their $9 cup of buttered coffee, ha!)

12.  Learned to play the card game Coconut, played countless games with the girls.

13.  Celebrated 14 years of marriage and 18 years of Randy's Optimus partnership.

14.  Celebrated friends Natasha and Kerry's birthdays and...

15.  At Natasha's, made a new friend! Hey, hey, Jeannine! Who partied with me at...

16.  Pitchfork! New appreciation for the rhythmic charms of TuneYards, the stunning stage presence of St. Vincent and the young crowd singing lustily along with every twenty-year old Neutral Milk Hotel song.

TuNeYaRds!! (or a title something like that)


17.  Also at Natasha's fete, discovered Vivian Maier's work and a great film about her discovery.

18.  Rode bikes with the girls to the pool for the first time!

19     Rode bikes with the girls to the beach for the first time! Discovered Artisanal is a great stop to pick up our favorite picnic munchies (fresh baguettes and salted butter, strawberry milk and bananas.)

20.  Moved our lake house party into a closet with family and friends during a thunderstorm warning and tornado watch.



21.  Hongos tacos and horchata milkshake at Antique Taco!

22.  Introduced my visiting 16-year-old niece (or to be technical, my cousin's granddaughter) to the affordable delights of Crossroads Trading Company...

23. Where I found a cute pair of red and white polka dot platform heels!



24. Overcame my initial squeamishness to take the girls and their cousin to Hurricane Harbor, the water park at Six Flags. Surprise! It's clean! With vigilant lifeguards! And no crowds at the end of the day!

25. Shared in the vicarious delights of introducing same 16-year-old to her first trip to Panera, first taxi ride and first attempt at paddle boarding on wavy Lake Michigan! (Thanks for the board loan, Kristen!)



26. Dared to try Taste of Chicago with three girls in tow. Mixed results, but Nora's daddy was able to pick up my overtired little one who didn't quite understand the concept of standing and eating. Tried my first Rainbow Cone!

27. Picked strawberries and raspberries with the girls, sister-in-law Rebecca and niece and nephew Jessica and Dylan.



28. Discovered to my shock and a flush of bittersweet memory that we were driving through Tom Waits' Johnsburg, Illinois on the way to strawberries.

29. Made strawberry ice cream with our Tom Waits berries.

30. Since Mia is at that weird in-between children's and teens sizes (and styles), I tried Plato's Closet consignment and found a couple of XS skirts that fit! #economizing

31. A funny and odd puppet production of Edward Gorey's works at the downtown Loyola art museum. Discovered Gorey lived in Wilmette! And attended middle school on the site of what is now Howard Park, only blocks from out house!

32. Grew my window box flowers from seed instead of dropping hundreds at Chalet for perfect seedlings. #economizing

Nasturtium, Black eyed Susan vine, Marigold


33. A Midsummer Night's Dream in the park! Finally understood the plot, thanks to a crystal clear and very funny production from Chicago Shakespeare Theater.

34. Doughssant at West Town Bakery, yum! The strawberry version of their donut-croissant hybrid is lovely; the s'mores version is an indulgence.

35. Read great books including: All the Light We Cannot See, Eleanor and Park, The One and Only Ivan, The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks. Read a crappy book called California that needed much more work. Joined a book club! (Thanks, Aimee!)

36. Circo Nacional de Puerto Rico and Theater Oobleck in Humboldt Park with Julie on violin and new friends from San Juan. Clowns and orchestra and audience, we were all adrift on an imaginary ocean liner without captain or power, our cruise director growing more disheveled as the tumblers tried to entertain and the growly first mate warned us not to go through THE RED DOOR! A delight at twilight on the soft grass, set to the music of my favorite, Nino Rota. Our favorite moment of the play was when Dave the clarinet player's eight and ten-year-olds were introduced as two of the ship's feral children, complete with fake black eyes and stage blood. They raised their fists and dared anyone to criticize their rough and tumble version of Cinderella, then did some impressive stage fighting until the first mate appeared to separate them. The two little ones turned on him and chased across the grass at which point a kid in the audience  jumped up to join them, followed by the entire front row of kids, screaming. The tiny maniacs ran him off into the bushes, then around back again, the cruise director looked genuinely flummoxed trying to get everyone seated again and the entire play stopped in its tracks as the rest of us roared with laughter.



37. Seven glorious episodes of The Story of Film: An Odyssey.

38. Laughed and giggled at dear old friend Clark clowning in a four-actor production of The 39 Steps.

39. Took Sweetie and Buddy along with Mia and Nora to the Army Navy Surplus on Lincoln for camping equipment. Ooed and ahed over the cardboard helicopter from a production of Miss Saigon.

40. Blaze Pizza! Pizza in 180 seconds!

41. Cheered friend Julie and her rockin' ensemble Girl Group at Wicker Park Fest! Screamed for more after another great set on the dirty streets of Northalsted Market Days. Fell in love with the driving 6/6 time and hypnotic minor key of "Sweet and Tender Romance."

42.  Got big laughs from the crowd when I called for the Fox Lake Girl Scouts to use their Supersoakers on me as their float drove by in the 4th of July parade. They complied, I got soaked and then handed two boxes of Samoas for the trouble. Worth it!



43. Took the girls and Mia's friend camping at Warren Dunes! No electricity except for the charger in my car dashboard. (Thanks for the tent loan, Deweys!) Had a wonderful reunion with dear cousin Sally, who I've missed so much!

44. Cheered Nora drumming and singing! with her two rock bands. "Crazy Train" was the best!


45. Planned a Fey family reunion at the lake for Labor Day weekend!

46. Watched a simulcast of the West End play The Audience in the freaky aluminum explosion that is the Jay Pritzker Pavilion at Millennium Park.

47. Chicago Symphony Orchestra at Ravinia played the music of Lerner and Lowe! Heavenly lawn seats with rented chair and table, soft blanket and snacks, little girls happy to read their comic books while Mommy swooned to the music.

48. Learned to play Mah Jong! Won a couple of rounds! (Thanks, Michele!)

49. Wrote two new and (I hope) funny songs for the 2015 Variety Show.

50. Sneaked in quick visits with dear nieces Maggie, Hilary and Andrea, was completely charmed by Andrea's fiance's little boy Damien.





Whew! I'm exhausted! It's harder work to remember our summer than it was to live it! My takeaway? Deep gratitude for dear friends and family, for our health and good fortune, for the time and energy to be Camp Mommy director for our little girls and more appreciation for the dear teachers who will take over the job next week.

Thursday, July 31, 2014

My Little Women



Let's call this a book review. Let's say we're going to discuss Louisa May Alcott's sweet, old-fashioned novel Little Women, even though I'm going somewhere else, somewhere hard and bad.

The book will be my buffer because the reality still stumps and stuns me, even after all these years. Thirty-eight years this August.

Nancy died.

Nancy, my sister, my constant companion, the girl who was so close to me that the word "friends" could not describe us, my bedroom roommate, the one who read Archie comics next to me among the suitcases and grocery bags and pillows packed in the rear of the station wagon, the child who one summer afternoon disappeared from my view forever with a violent suddenness that still rocks my heart. That little girl? She died.

She was nine and I was eleven and this year my daughters are the same ages.

You would think I'd be lost in reveries this particular summer, wouldn't you? Trying to study Mia and Eleanor, searching for clues about how Nancy and I lived our last summer together, trying to enter a time machine by watching them and imaging that Mia is me and Nora is Nancy.

But I'm not.

There's not much time to reflect in between the busy, happy hours of our staycation summer of 2014, in between the endless card games, the pool and beach afternoons, the street fests and Ravinia and Wrigley and Shakespeare in the park, the day camps and backyard games and bike rides. 

And this summer has been gorgeous, too full of clear sunlight and luminous blue skies for ruminating, the sweet garden scents brought out by the pre-dawn rains distracting me from the past.

Sometimes I'll get a flash of recognition in their passionate arguments, or in their screams of laughter, or inside their quiet and contented parallel work creating a world of Legos on Nora's bedroom rug.  I'll think, I know this.

But they are themselves, not us.

So if I recognize that I can be too tough on Mia when I scold her for fighting with her little sister and if I recognize I can be too coddling of Eleanor because I see a distorted version of my sibling and me in them and if I know I'm acting out of an irrational guilt for not cherishing more the sister that I could never have imagined would leave so soon, well, if I recognize all that, then we'll just have to work on it, won't we? and I've just saved myself a few thousand dollars in psychotherapy charges, haven't I?

The world is too much with me for an extended stay in the backrooms of my mind and Mia and Eleanor are their own people, not replicas, not reincarnations and I am constantly swept back home to NOW, to today because Nora's new braces are KILLLING her mouth and can she have another dose of Children's Motrin and I need to pick up the summer enrichment carpool in eight minutes and isn't the flox blooming in glorious shades this summer?

But anyway, Little Women...

You may call it a coincidence that this is the year that I picked up a copy of Little Women at the toy store and decided to read it again. Or not.

The cover was the thing that caught my eye, a collage of embroidered stitches outlining thematic objects from the story, a cottage, a pile of books, Beth's piano.

The edition is from the new "Penguin Threads" line and on the inside flaps of the cover, you see the underside of the embroidery work, the strange and random lines that underpin the neat sewing patterns on the opposite side. A gorgeous design for a modern day reexamination of the book.

The novel reads so different than when I took it up as a girl. Of course, there are the pleasurable depths added by that awesome Friends episode (intertextuality!) and by Claire Danes' greatest performance EVAH as Beth in the 1994 film (oh, the tears!) but this reader has changed since I first read it and that is what has changed the book.

The arch language, the goo of sentiment, the importance of Scripture for these Civil War gentlewomen, all are so far from our midwestern 1970's childhood. We ran away from squishy emotion, threw limp insults at each other imagining we were as clever as the Bradys, snorted at the lovey-dovey family scenes in Little House on the Prairie and The Waltons.

Now Marmie the mother is my entry point, instead of Jo the headstrong middle daughter. Now the novel's central point, the axis around which all spins, is no longer a romantic love triangle, but the death of the younger sister. Now the overt emotion is a teacher, rather than something from which to run away. The book, its diction and its sentiment is less strange now and I can allow myself to be a vicarious Jo for a while, rather than looking at her from a distance. It is safe in my imagination and ensconced within the act of reading to apply some of Alcott's words to us and to use them as a kind of comfort, in my own secular way:

Seeing (Beth trying to wean herself from the dear old life) did more for Jo than the wisest sermons,  the saintliest hymns, the most fervent prayers that any voice could utter; for, with eyes made clear by many tears, and a heart softened by the tenderest sorrow, she recognized the beauty of her sister's life -- uneventful, unambitious, yet full of the genuine virtues which "smell sweet, and blossom in the dust"; the self-forgetfulness that makes the humblest on earth remembered soonest in heaven...

What a pleasure to read this, dry-eyed and grateful. What hard work to forgive (and forgive again) the child I was who played and teased and helped and walked with and cared for her little sister, but did not say the kind of words of devotion and abiding love that Louisa May Alcott wrote. An irrational thing to hold against myself, I know. But it is all part of the longing that never ends.

Mia and Nora had a fight last week, then made up. I was downstairs and they were upstairs so I missed the whole thing until Nora came down to show me the Lego creation she had fashioned. It was a little platform, supporting a door standing in its frame. The door was elevated on two little blocks so there was a space underneath where the two little Lego girls on either side could slide notes back and forth to each other. The Lego girls were posed bending over toward the door and toward each other, one with brown hair like Mia and like Nancy, the other with blond hair like Nora and like me when I was young.

"Oh, how sweet!" I cried. "Is this what you and Sister were doing upstairs?"

Nora told me how she had locked herself in her room after Mia accidentally kicked her. Mia slid a dry-erase board with an apology under her door and Nora wrote her an acceptance back. I melted  inside and cooed and praised all over the Lego reenactment. I knew by Nora's giggles as she continued to tell the story that the dry-erase board notes eventually degenerated into pictures of bare butts passing clouds of gas and so forth, but such is the love between those two, the immature and perfect love between young sisters.



Monday, June 30, 2014

Children's Film Study 101

It's been a lovely summer so far, full of beaching and bike rides and a backyard campout, but with a few extra rainy days here and there that gave me and the girls empty hours. So in between the enrichment art classes and music lessons, I've started a mini-project to introduce the girls to some classic Hollywood cinema.

By any chance have you ever heard of an actor/director/musician by the name of Charlie Chaplin?

Of course you have. World's most famous silent screen actor, right? But have you SEEN the guy? Not just a Halloween costume imitation, but have you seen this genius move?


Climactic scene of Buster Keaton's The General. This is a real train, on a real trestle by the way.


I always had this snobby preconception that Buster Keaton was the real underrated comic genius of the silent era while Chaplin was the sentimental crowd-pleaser, a sell-out, playing to the crowd. Even after I read his charming autobiography and caught a few scenes of him eating a shoe in film school, I remained immune.

We showed the girls Buster Keaton's The General a while back and of course they were thrilled by the most thrilling of epic chase-adventure-comedies. And since they weren't turned off by the silence and the intertitles, Randy recorded Chaplin's The Kid off Netflix and I watched it with the girls.

THE KID IS FREAKING AMAZING.



Chaplin moves like a dancer on screen, and takes you on a roller coaster ride of emotion. There's plenty of that gooey sentiment that I was so wary of as a irony-worshiping twenty-something, but now as a mother, I've learned to embrace. The little girls next to me yelled with outrage and sympathy as they watched the orphan child being pulled away from his adoptive father, "This is horrible! How can they do that!" and that was good viewer response. These girls don't need a critical eye yet or a lecture about resisting emotional manipulation, right now at nine and eleven years of age, they need to experience the pathos.

There's a jaw-dropping and utterly hilarious moment in The Kid that I find more audacious than anything I've seen from R-rated comedies like This is The End or the Farrelly Brothers or Bridesmaids. Chaplin's Little Tramp finds an abandoned infant and has absurd scene after absurd scene trying to pass the kid on to a nanny, a policeman, anyone who will take the responsibility, without luck. Finally, he sits on the curb with the bundle in his arms and catches sight of a manhole cover in the street beside him. He lifts the cover, looks at the kid in his arms, glances at the audience. It's a riotous moment; you cannot believe what you are seeing. I burst into laughter, gasping to the girls, "That's so terrible! That's so funny!"

We moved on to Alfred Hitchcock's Rear Window because my girls had been begging to learn about Hitchcock. My little ghouls LOVED it. Probably the most family-friendly of the Hitchcocks (although I may try The 39 Steps with them soon.) Fun and suspense at a volume that kids can handle. The violence is off-screen and much of the talk about the murder is jokey and light.


John Ford's Stagecoach was a tough sell - there are multiple stories going on and there's lots of talk and much of the language is too archaic. The girls could not understand why hooker-with-a-heart-of-gold Dallas was being thrown out of town by the uptight little old ladies of the "Law and Order League." I had to explain she "had too many boyfriends" but I think the girls could relate to the themes of bullying, hypocrisy and prejudice. This is a film where every glance is loaded with meaning and much of it probably flew over the girls' heads, but who could resist being sucked in by the heart-pounding race across the desert flats as the little stagecoach eludes the Apaches. Breath-taking stunts and emotional investment in the microcosm of society within the coach, especially John Carradine as the mysterious gambler Hatfield.



While Nora was drumming afternoons at rock camp, Mia and I watched the revisionist Western Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid to contrast with Stagecoach classicism. Mia called the 1969 film "modern" right away during the credit sequence and although she was slow to warm up to the joys of William Goldman's jokey script, she was enthralled by the end. It's Redford and Newman at their most charismatic moment and both of us felt the loss when they dash from their Bolivian hideout to die in the freeze frame of legend.

Friday, May 30, 2014

Mexico 2014




 

Happy memories of laughing with friends, exploring with the children, breathing the fresh morning air in the desert between the Sierra Laguna mountains and the endless Pacific ocean.

Three pelicans standing like dignified statues on a steep and hardpacked stretch of sand. Wary eyes on me as I walk by, but their formation holds.

The night we arrived, Brent brought over a warm loaf of his sourdough bread wrapped in a dishtowel. We stood around the kitchen island and cut the break into thick fragrant slices and ate the bread together, moaning because it was so good and laughing because we moaned.

Stories, stories, stories from our friends, making up for years away. Recollections of the days in Wicker Park when we all first met, of old friends who have moved away, friends who are doing well like Paul whose mural decorates the Philly airport terminal, friends who are struggling -- Jerry, who is drinking too much, worrying his wife. We pause with the news. For her to make that concession is huge. We did not know.

Jumbles of child and dog and pillows on a bed made on the floor.

The homemade bocce court raked and groomed out of the sand in Serena's garden. Our two girls and our friends' two boys toss the balls, bicker and negotiate over rules, lose the baseball we've brought on the palm roof, find peace in the mutual enemy of a tiny Dora doll, whose elaborate doom they plan by the hour.

Brent's paintings, joy on canvas.

The sweet voices of children at the Palapa Society that Serena runs, their after-school music lessons in English culminating in this music program we are privileged to hear. "I'm a little teapot." "Don't worry about a thing. Every little thing's gonna be alright."

Brent's homemade pizza and dal and a vegan potato pie with a somehow crispy crust from the coconut milk, oh oh oh.

Fresh limeade, ceviche with jicama and mango, tender whitefish in a champagne buerre blanc at a restaurant with open walls and a palm frond roof, rosemary sorbet and lime ice cream.

Sun on the waves. Horses and dogs on the beach.

Surfers at the La Pastora point break. One hunches over sideways, like Rodin's Adam at rest, gliding over his wave effortlessly and smooth. Beautiful.

Then home. And the awful news that Jerry took his life. Stricken. Shock. Bewilderment. Great grief for our friend, for his wife, for his pain, for hers.

And the days before made even more precious.

Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Sleeping My Way To The Top: Arianna Huffington's Thrive


Today the From Left to Write bookclub is discussing how HuffPost founder Arianna Huffington's new book Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being relates to our lives.

I really dig Huffington's advice to enhance our lives through committing to serve, exploring meditation and mindfulness, practicing gratitude and regaining our child-like sense of wonder though art and nature. Her exhortation to view coincidences as meaningful messages with "a kind of magic power?" Not so much.

But one section of the book gave me support for a little self-help secret I've been reluctant to share: I like to sleep more than eight hours a night.

The confession is tough to make. I don't admire the macho one-up-manship of competitive sleep deprivation but still, isn't eight hours adequate? Not for me, apparently.

Huffington compares the benefits of sufficient rest to that of performance-enhancing drugs -- good sleep can improve concentration, increase focus and creativity, lower stress, suppress appetite, enhance mental performance and even reduce the risk of Alzheimer's.

Makes sense to me. I know well the difference between the frazzled day I drag myself through after a short night and the pleasure of a vacation day. But Huffington's book inspired me to take a further mindful step, to start actively scheduling my sleep and treating the bedtime hour as if it were an important appointment. Instead of guess-timating how quick I could throw together my fifth-grader's lunch before her bus arrived and subtracting eight hours from that to set my bedtime, I made sure I was in bed by 9:30. Even though the girls had said goodnight only a few minutes before, even though delicious episodes of Mad Men and Cosmos were calling my name, even though it felt indulgent and even indolent, I stuck all last week to my schedule.

And last week was a busy one - I was planning the elementary school's Earth Week activities AND a Brownie overnight while reading Huffington's book in spare moments. But stuff got done. And more stuff. There was a chugging quality to my work: emails, emails, emails; phone calls, phone calls, phone calls; errands, errands, errands, packing, packing, packing. I didn't feel more energetic, but more, well, solid. Less "multi-tasking" (code word: distractions like Facebook) and more accomplishing. And of course, more patience with the girls, even at night when we were all tired.

And the results of all the planning? Sixteen little third-graders had a fun weekend at camp, got fed, learned archery and candle-making, traded handmade SWAPS crafts, made bookbags and bookmarks for Chicago Public Library patrons, rolled down hills, sang songs, Tie-Dyed, played parachute games, ran a scavenger hunt, hiked, jumped, climbed, got fed, and slept a little on Saturday night.

Nobody cried, only one use of the First Aid kit.

S-U-C-C-E-S-S! That's the way we spell SUCCESS!!

And Sunday? I took a three hour afternoon nap, then went to bed at 9:00 p.m.

You can read more responses to Huffington's book on the From Left to Write website. Members of the bookclub received copies of the books with no obligation.